26 Oct 2015
An October Ritual to Inspire Connectedness with Yourself and Others

“Autumn whispers: The time is ripe. Are you ready?”

- Kimberely Arana

It’s hard to argue the beauty of the fall season: those crisp, clear days; the changing colours.

There is also often a sense of change in the air that goes much deeper than what we can see in nature around us. As though a proverbial switch has been flicked, fall has a flavour very distinct from summer. We might find ourselves feeling like it’s time to get “back to work” after summer’s long, lazy days that encourage us to take our time, to linger over a drink on a patio or go for a long walk with no destination.

Fall’s energy feels so different because it truly is the harvest season. And when I say harvest, I’m not talking about harvesting crops. It’s an idea that can extend to so many areas of our lives: 

What is it time to be thankful for? 

What might you find yourself harvesting now that you don’t want to see growing in your life again next year? 

What could you plant instead to take its place? 

For example, I know for myself that this fall so far has brought to light some areas of my life where I realize I need to be more assertive with how people treat my time. So, I need to look at where I need to say no more, where I need stronger boundaries and also look at why I have been lacking confidence to do this up until this point.

While these shifts can be personal, we don’t have to acknowledge them in solitude. Sharing our lessons from the year and our objectives for the year ahead can bring us closer together and also show us how we support each other in the here and now.

I created the Three Seeds Ritual with this in mind. It’s a simple activity that you can do with a friend, partner, or even a small group. It’s nice to do this ritual with someone else because you can act as witnesses for each other. 

Choose a place outdoors. The time of day is up to you, as is the location. Just pick a place that feels special to you in some way, such as a favourite park, corner of the yard, or under a beautiful old tree. As long as the location resonates with you and as long as there is some earth that you can dig into.

What you’ll need:


A pen
- Three separate pieces of paper

A small shovel
- A candle (optional
  • one in a jar is best outdoors, in case of a windy day)
Incense (optional)
A small offering of fruit, nuts, or a small stone or trinket

Once you’ve found your spot, take out your first piece of paper and write down whatever you’re ready to let go of this Fall. Some ideas could be an old belief that you know is holding you back, the pain of a past relationship, a job you are unhappy in, or a memory that you know you need to set free.

If it feels right, talk it out with the person you are with. Together, you can help each other articulate what you’re both letting go of. If you would rather keep it private, that’s okay, too. There is no wrong way to do this. It’s your ritual.

On your second piece of paper, write down something you want to “plant” for next spring, such as a goal, or a feeling you want to have more of in life. Maybe you want to be happier, or maybe you want to find a new place to live. Whatever it is, don’t worry if you don’t know how to make it happen yet. Just write down something you are ready to work towards.

And, on your third piece of paper write down a question that you want to better understand in the months ahead.

Maybe this is a question that supports what you’re letting go of or inviting in: “How can I be happier next year?” “How can I finally let go of my old relationship?”

Or, maybe it’s a question totally unrelated: “What’s a lesson I still have to learn about myself this year?” “What can I do more of for others?”

When you’re finished writing, fold up your pieces of paper and bury them in the earth. If you like, you can bury it with an offering, such as a handful of nuts, a piece of fruit, or a small charm or special stone – something that can act as a way to give thanks to the “seeds” you are now planting.

Happy harvest season! 

Liz Worth

Tarot reader and author of four books: PostApoc, Amphetamine Heart, and Treat Me Like Dirt: An Oral History of Punk in Toronto and Beyond. No Work Finished Here: Rewriting Andy Warhol, will be published by BookThug this Fall. Currently rewriting Twin Peaks scripts as poetry.