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22 Sep 2015
Dating
Women are incredibly independent and they don’t need a man to own property or even have children. But, that doesn’t mean that we don’t want men. In fact, it’s the complete opposite. We want a partner with whom we can share our life experiences. Here are four things I think today’s woman wants in a man:


  1. Direction
    You might still be figuring things out in your life and working towards your career goals. And, that’s okay! But, the important thing here is that you HAVE career goals. We want someone who is not complacent, but rather who has exciting dreams, a life’s purpose and a plan to get there.

  2. Basic life skills
    It’s not our fantasy to pick up your dirty socks or wash your dirty gym clothes. Trust me, there is no woman out there who thinks this is fun. If you don’t know how to do the laundry, clean or cook, good luck! Firstly, no matter your gender, these are life skills. Secondly, women want a partnership where chores are shared amongst each other so you need to know how to perform these basic tasks or else…

  3. A life
    If you’re expecting us to fill your social calendar, please look the other way. We are not your personal concierge. We want someone who has hobbies and interests. And, don’t feel guilty if we don’t share a lot of them. Couples don’t have to do everything together. Time apart is healthy. Self-assurance. This doesn’t mean you have to be an extrovert to get the ladies. We like introverts too. But, know who you are and own it. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not because we can spot a fake quickly. We like men who know who they are and are proud of it.

  4. An opinion
    You have to be able to openly express your opinion regardless of whether it’s a popular one or not. Nothing is sexier than a man standing up for what he believes in. Keep these things in mind: be respectful, keep your language clean and a discussion is different from an argument.


This is my take on things. I don’t speak on behalf of all women, so take this information with a grain of salt. Instead, when you’re on a date, ask her what SHE wants, her expectations, needs, likes and dislikes. This is the only way to truly find out what today’s woman wants.
Mishka Alarcon

Mishka Alarcon

Mishka is a B2B marketer and social media strategist. She also enjoys blogging for her website MishkaAlarcon.com and for other organizations including: American Marketing Association (AMA) Toronto Chapter, Lean In Canada and most recently VIV Love Life. In addition to writing she loves taking pictures of architecture and competing in CrossFit.